can I train people not to bother me when I have headphones on, I promised to tell my boss when I’m job-searching, and more (2022)

It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go…

1. Can I train people not to bother me when I have headphones on?

I am a supervisor at a small public library (10 full-time people). Our office in the back is an open office plan. I am next to the employee entrance/exit, staff bathrooms, and the break room. Needless to say, there are a lot of interruptions! I hate this floor plan, but there’s not too much I can do about it. My boss loves it.

I often wear headphones (which is acceptable, but not extremely common here) and people don’t seem to get the hint that I need to concentrate and will often interrupt me with things that can wait or things that can be left in my inbox. I try to listen to make sure I am not missing anything important.

Is there any way that I can train employees to not bother me when I have headphones on or do I just have to live with interruptions that could have been an email? Also my boss is very chatty, so I often get a lot more work done when she is not around and need the uninterrupted work time.

It depends on the nature of your role. There are some jobs where being accessible is part of doing it well, and that can be mean being available even for things that could wait. There are other jobs where that’s not the case, and where it’s perfectly reasonable to ask people to save things up for a more convenient time, email them to you, etc. Assuming your job is in the latter category (and that your own boss would agree), it’s okay to tell your staff, “I need some blocks of uninterrupted time to focus on projects that require concentration. I’m going to wear headphones during those times, so when you see my headphones on, please only interrupt me if it definitely can’t wait.” (Of course, if you do that, you need to make sure you’re not wearing headphones all day long, every day.) You might also have luck with a sign reinforcing that message — something like, “Work block — interrupt for emergencies only.”

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Also, think about the sorts of things people interrupt you for. Could you cut down on some of it with better training or more proactive guidance or by delegating more authority? That won’t always solve this kind of thing — sometimes people just want to talk in person RIGHT NOW regardless — but it’s worth thinking about.

2. I promised to tell my boss when I’m looking for a new job

About six months ago, my direct manager resigned and I now report to that manager’s former manager. During our initial conversation after my manager’s departure, I was asked to “let them know if I’m reaching a point where I’m looking for something else.” I (in a moment of panic) agreed. Given some changes in the culture and changes in work, I’ve begun actively looking and am expecting to give notice in the next few months.

Now in a regular situation, my advice to others would be that it’s not necessary or prudent to share that you are actively looking until there is an offer on the table, especially if it could affect the working relationship while still in your job. However, I’m a bit torn in this situation since I explicitly agreed to let them know. Any thoughts on how to navigate this?

Your boss’s boss put you in an unfair position by asking that of you in the first place; very few people in that situation will feel safe saying, “Actually, I’d rather not let you know and I’d prefer to drop it on you like a surprise when it happens.” Of course you agreed to it!

But that doesn’t mean you need to do it, and it’s likely not in your best interests to. You risk getting pushed out earlier than you want to leave, or even just not considered for raises, bonuses, or high-profile projects since they’ll figure you’re on your way out anyway. Stick with two weeks notice, and if your boss’s boss mentions your “agreement” at that point (which they might not even do), you can say, “This fell in my lap and was too good an opportunity to pass up.” You don’t owe full transparency (or full transparency outside of normal professional conventions, no less) just because someone with power over you pushed you to agree to something contrary to your interests.

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3. Salesman showed up in person at my new job

I started a new job three months ago. This morning, a colleague in another department messaged me that a visitor, “John Doe,” was looking for me, and asked if I was expecting anyone. I was not, and the name wasn’t immediately familiar. Before I could respond, John was led across the building to my desk. (The safety issue there is a separate issue.) I realized John was a vendor that I’d worked with at my last job, as in I’d emailed him to place an order a couple times over the last few years. My last order was a year ago.

John was of course in full sales mode, said he enjoyed working with me before, gave me his new pitch, etc. I took his business card and said a polite noncommittal thing and he left.

After, I looked at my LinkedIn history and saw we had connected on LinkedIn a while back. When I posted my job update a few months ago, he had sent me a perfunctory “congrats on your new job” message and I had responded with a thank you. I hadn’t remembered that (was wondering how he knew where I worked now), but that was the extent of our interaction. I certainly wasn’t expecting a person I barely remembered to show up at my new workplace unannounced for a cold sales call. Also, his company has never had business with my new company.

John’s company does seem to operate with an old-fashioned business etiquette, where in-person business tends to be emphasized, and I understand he is a business owner just doing his job. However, I work with sales reps from vendors frequently, and they have always called, emailed, contacted us via our website, or pre-arranged a visit. While I’m sure John’s visit was meant to be a warm, personal touch to help them stand out as a company, I feel uncomfortable and a little creeped out knowing that he tracked me down in-person! Is this as weird as this felt for me? Do other companies actually prefer these in-person, unannounced sales visits?

Yeah, this is a thing that some salespeople do. Since you announced your new job on LinkedIn (and even traded messages with him about it, albeit perfunctory ones), he didn’t really track you down so much as make a note of your new employer so he could contact you there. Showing up in person without an appointment is obnoxious, but I’d argue it would also be obnoxious if you were a current client of his. It’s more about overly aggressive, old-school sales tactics than creepiness, at least in my opinion. But you’re not the only one who will find it over-the-top, and salespeople really should adjust their traditional tactics to account for the growing number of people who are turned off by this kind of thing.

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4. My current job is pushing me to commit to projects while I’m waiting for an offer

I work in a nonprofit niche, and after being at my organization for a decade, I’ve applied for a new opportunity doing similar but higher-level job at a new place. I’m pretty sure I landed the position or I’m in close consideration. However, it’s been three weeks since my last interview and I’m still waiting for the shoe to drop.

My profession is pretty calendar-driven, with certain projects occurring annually on a standard timeline. My supervisor is starting to press me to get started on the next upcoming set of big projects. If I were staying, I’d definitely be getting started right now — but I don’t want to begin a new cycle, then bail after several weeks once the new job finally calls me. Because of downsizing during Covid, I’ve gone from a department of five to a department of one (just me!), so there’s nobody I can low-key delegate to right now, and they’d have to hire an outside replacement for me; said replacement would then have to decipher my half-done work, which is way more complicated then having them start fresh on their own version of the project.

I’ve been reluctant to follow up since my thank-you’s after the final interview. I figure (a) I’ve got the job, (b) I’ve not got the job, or (c) they haven’t decided, and calling them won’t change that. I gave consent for a background check a week ago, and I’m boring as sin so I know it must have come back clean.

Is it appropriate to let the new job know that I’m being pressed to commit to the upcoming year at my current organization, and I need to know if they’re making me an offer so that I can begin transitioning out? Both employers are in the same field, so it should be pretty clear the kind of conflict/inconvenience this would cause if the situation were flipped. I don’t want to rock the boat for rocking’s sake, but I’m afraid they might be asleep at the helm!

You shouldn’t tell them you “need to know” if they’re making you an offer; the reality is the timelines simply might not match up the way you want them to, and sometimes that’s just how this goes. But you can say, “I wondered if you might have a sense of your timeline for next steps. I’m being asked to commit to some big projects at my current organization soon, but I’m very interested in the role with you.” That might nudge them … or it might not. They might not be ready to move immediately for any number of reasons (decision-maker out of town, last-minute candidate emerging who needs to be interviewed, background check taking a while — and they can definitely take longer than a week, even when you’re boring). But it’s reasonable to ask about their timeline and you can give that a try.

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Meanwhile, don’t do anything at your current job that you’ll regret if you don’t end up getting this offer (or — equally important — if you get the offer but turn it down over salary or other terms). You never really have an offer until you actually have an offer, no matter how promising things seem, and things can always change at the last minute. So generally speaking, you should proceed as if you don’t have the other job until you do, which can indeed mean starting projects that then inconvenience your employer when you move on. That’s just the way this stuff works.

5. Rejecting a candidate who I invited to apply

I was recently promoted into a management role at my company and with that I’m now hiring to fill my former position. I’ve previously supervised interns, so I decided to reach out to one who had stood out to let them know about the job and that I thought they might be a good fit.

Unfortunately, their application and cover letter both look really slapped together with a lot of typos and grammar errors. Most concerningly to me is that they’ve listed their internship under the title of the staff member they worked closely with (which was never their title) and have made it look like they were a full staff member.

I’m at the point of checking references for my finalists and needing to start sending rejections. What’s the best way to go about rejecting someone that you asked to apply in the first place? And should I bring up their resume and the misrepresentation of their work?

The main thing when you’re rejecting someone who you invited to apply is to send a personalized rejection rather than a form letter. For example: “I really appreciate the time you put into exploring the X position with me, and it was great to be able to catch up with you about what you’ve been doing since your time here. We had a very competitive group of applicants for the position, and ultimately I’ve decided to offer it to another candidate, who has accepted. If you’d like any feedback about your interview or application, I’d be happy to set up a call to do that — but either way I’m grateful for the time you spent talking with me.”

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If they do want feedback, you can bring up the concerns you had then, but this message leaves it in her court rather than you spontaneously listing all the ways she disappointed you.

That said, in situations like this I wish we had a time machine! The misrepresented job title is an important thing to raise, but the best time to ask about it was earlier in the process. Doing it now before they’ve asked for feedback — when you didn’t say anything about it earlier — will feel a little odd, so at this point I’d wait and see if they want to hear more or not.

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