My boyfriend's mom talked badly on me? - Tiny Buddha (2022)

December 21, 2017 at 8:46 pm#183245

Katie

Participant

I feel like I post on here a lot but I just have a lot of relationship troubles that I do not know how to handle. My boyfriend’s mom… I don’t like her. I am very shy, quiet, sensitive, vulnerable… idk. These are words I’d use to describe myself emotionally and socially. His mom is… loud, rude (sometimes,… eh nah often), opinionated, angry. For the most part she is nice to me in person but I am very much intimidated by her more exaggerated personality. My mom is more delicate like me, as are my friends. My boyfriend’s family is way more loud. I am just not used to being around people like that. I have a hard time getting along with his mom just because of it. I see other girls my age getting along really well with my boyfriend’s mom but me… not so much. Anyway, my boyfriend just dropped me off at home from a hockey game we went to tonight (that my dad paid for for us). When I texted him, he replied by saying “my mom just talked badly on you” and I went on and asked what she said. He told me she was talking badly about how I am jewish and how she would rather “have (his sister’s) african american boyfriend over the house than me” but let’s just say she didn’t use the words the words “african american” and.. this is the worst one….”she is jewish so she is basically on the same level as a (N word).” She is very racist and has often talked badly on the sister’s boyfriend because he is, you know, black. Which is so wrong in soooo many ways. Believe me I am not offended by this because I am proud to be jewish/spanish/persian. I love my culture and background so when people ever talk badly about it, I just laugh because to me it is my best characteristic. And anyone else should be proud of theirs too. But anyway, I am just not sure how to handle this situation. My boyfriend also told me he got so angry that his mom said that that he put a hole in his wall. So… idk. I feel bad for his mom because she is a single mother of 3 working multiple low income jobs but I feel kinda hurt and confused so.

December 22, 2017 at 5:57 am#183265

anita

Participant

Dear Katie:

Post as much and as often as you’d like. Good to read from you.

Your boyfriend’s mother works three low income jobs to support herself and her household, being divorced from her ex husband. She also had a boyfriend after the divorce and that relationship did not work out, correct?

She is angry, and, day in and day out, wishing her life was different, more financially secure, like others’. She comes across people of different races who have easier lives, financially and … she is angry that she does not.

She probably feels lesser about herself, so she puts other people down, to feel better about herself, choosing race because she doesn’t have much else to go with.

Your boyfriend must have a difficult time living with her, not only presently but a lifetime. You wrote in a previous thread that you share a goal with him, to live in Miami. If Miami is far away from his family of origin, it is a good plan

Of course, he will have to deal with his mother’s voice in his head, telling him things, even when she isn’t.

anita

December 24, 2017 at 11:56 am#183441

Katie

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Anita:

His Mom texted me the next day with a long message basically saying she never said anything about me and that my boyfriend is out of control. Then she told me to tell him to fix the hole in the wall or she will file a report against him. I wanted to answer but my boyfriend told me not to. And I didn’t want to get in between their fight. Well, my boyfriend and his mom have been fighting bad. She won’t let him in the house. I’m not sure what this fight is based on. All I know is that he told me his mom was saying those things about me, which caused him to punch a hole in the wall, which then caused his Mom to kick him out. I’m not going to lie, I feel like his mom doesn’t like me and is now expressing it to him. I’m not sure what to do. My boyfriend was going Christmas shopping today and asked me to text his mom asking what she would like for Christmas. (She blocked him so that’s why he wanted me to ask). She replied by saying “tell him I do not want anything and that he better not show up to Christmas. He should not be home today from 3 pm to Tuesday 8 am I do not want to see him. I do not want to see either of you. Neither of you are welcome here.”

so yeah I think she hates me!! I’m not sure what to do.

December 24, 2017 at 12:00 pm#183443

Katie

Participant

Also Anita,

i asked my boyfriend to clarify her message as I was suprised that she said “I do not want to see either of you” but he said he doesn’t know what she means and that she’s crazy. I have no idea what to do in this situation. I don’t know what is happening. Does his mom hate me? Or does his mom simply not want us going over as she is mad at him (and not me)? Why did his mom say those things about me earlier about being Jewish? Is it because she is beginning to express her dislike for me? I feel like I’m being put in the middle of their fight. Should I just ignore this and wait until they get along again? Will she like me again after they stop fighting? I’m left very confused.

December 24, 2017 at 12:37 pm#183447

anita

Participant

Dear Katie:

I think that you shouldn’t concern yourself (if you can) with whether his mother likes you or not. The real issue, I believe, is that your boyfriend is in trouble and has been in trouble for a long time.

His mother’s aggressive behavior toward him is something he probably grew up with and that hurt and harmed him. For as long as you are your boyfriend’s girlfriend, support him in his struggle with his aggressive mother. Don’t try to befriend her, be on your boyfriend’s side. Support him.

He needs a woman to support him; be that woman for him.

anita

December 24, 2017 at 12:39 pm#183449

anita

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December 24, 2017 at 5:12 pm#183471

Eliana

Participant

Hi Katie,

It looks like you are in good hands, but I wanted to reply, as I feel I can relate and share my experience, and why you should re-evaluate your relationship. As long as you have a relationship with this man, unfortunately, you will have to deal with his Mother indefinitely. He sounds he is very influenced by her and what she thinks and says. I don’t think he should have texted you in the first place saying “My mother talked badly of you”. This is very negative and opening a can of worms. I would have texted or called him back and said “is there a reason, you feel the need to tell me this?”. If he starts in on what she says, he is spreading gossip, it is malicious, a form of making you feel bad about yourself and you get caught up in drama and misery/stress. Your relationship takes a back seat, because now the relationship becomes “about her” and this will continue as long as he too, is in a relationship with her, you will have to deal with her, gossiping, drama..is this what you want? I wouldn’t want this.

I had the same thing happen. I was so excited. I took a trip with an ex from Seattle to Alaska for Christmas to meet his parents. His stepfather was nice enough, but his Mom stayed at home. I brought her a Christmas gift which she grabbed and opened right away. Her response? “Just what I need, something fattening”. The whole trip was emotionally draining and exhausting. No matter how nice I was, she went out of her way to make a snide comment to me. I begged my boyfriend, if we could go to a hotel, he just defended his Mother. I knew, that as long as I had a relationship with him, I would have to always “deal” with her. I don’t like it when someone does not like me, it is too stressful, especially my boyfriend’s mother. I even heard them gossiping about me after I got back from a walk. Then she admonished me saying I was not wearing proper clothing for Alaska weather, when I had a heavy coat, gloves, hat, scarf on..nothing was ever good enough. I knew if I were to marry him, her dysfunction, were to carry over to him, and I wanted no part of it. We broke up shortly therafter, after arriving in Seattle. Worst Christmas of my life. Please think long and hard about your relationship, as it will be with his dysfunctional mother too.

December 25, 2017 at 5:44 pm#183599

Katie

Participant

Anita:

i have been supporting him as best as I can and I hope he appreciates it. But another thing that I think is important to mention is that my boyfriend is also very aggressive which I assume he gets it from his mother and father. I love him and see him as my best friend but he is very aggressive himself. Recently I have been standing up for myself and he has been less aggressive towards me but in the beginning he was very aggressive to me. In the beginning I didn’t know how I was supposed to be treated and I remember my best guy friend trying to tell me that his behavior is unacceptable but I didn’t know. So I guess this is a problem that doesn’t have as much to do with this post but is still important. It has always been EXTREMELY difficult for the relationship to work as he is so aggressive and stubborn. He isn’t like a normal boy who compromises it’s so hard to get him to listen

December 26, 2017 at 6:05 am#183657

anita

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Dear Katie:

If your boyfriend is aggressive toward you still, if he hits you, if he yells at you, if he calls you names, if he breaks things in front of you, if he jokingly puts you down (indirect aggression), etc., then end the relationship.

If he is not aggressive with you and you choose to be in a relationship with him, then support him, not his mother. Be on his side, not on his mother’s side.

It is impossible for a child to not be affected by an aggressive parent. It is a law of physics, that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. His mother was aggressive toward him, that is the action. The reaction is him getting hurt and angry. She was the perpetrator in his life and he was her victim.

So understand his anger (for as long as it is not turned abusively toward you), as not something inherently bad about him, but a reaction to an action, a natural development not of his choosing. And help him… for as long as you choose to be with him.

anita

December 26, 2017 at 6:15 am#183663

Eliana

Participant

Hi Katie,

Your post concerned me, about the “aggressiveness” this is never a good thing in a relationship and should not be tolerated. You didn’t state what type of “aggressiveness” he displays, but there should be none at all. This is very unhealthy and toxic. Be it emotion, psychological, any type of abuse, the relationship can not progress, until the person is willing to seek professional treatment.

December 27, 2017 at 9:58 am#183909

Eliana

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December 28, 2017 at 3:29 pm#184223

Katie

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Anita and Eliana,

He is just controlling. He acts like he owned me, could decide who I could and couldn’t talk to and what I did. He would force me to do things for him. He is controlling and I always just put up with it because he is my first love and I really don’t know better honestly. He has always been like that but about 2 weeks ago I told him “I’m unhappy being controlled like this so I’m leaving” and he kept begging and begging and told me he’d change. I understand how hard it is for people to change so I said “I don’t even think you realize how to change” but he kept on promising to change. So I gave him a chance and he was really good. He was really attentive to my feelings and I finally felt happy with him. Then all this happened with his mom and I am currently on vacation with my family so I am apart from him. I can slowly feel the relationship turning back into what it was before and I’m not sure what to do. Honestly deep down I don’t think he will ever be capable of the change I want because he is controlling with everything in his life. I really realized the relationship was going back to what it was before when my boyfriend and I got into a fight last night. 2 weeks doesn’t seem long a long time but for those 2 weeks I was feeling like myself and I was happy with him and we hadn’t fought at all.

December 28, 2017 at 3:33 pm#184225

Katie

Participant

So yeah. I think I should leave but also realize how difficult it is. 2 weeks ago I was a different person I don’t know how I was so easily able to say “I’m unhappy it’s over” I think it was because I was honestly just so unhappy. He made me so upset and I was able to see the light outside of the relationship. Now I have become comfortable with the relationship and how he has been making me feel. I also have another problem. I am completely isolated from everyone in my grade (I’m still in high school) when before I was very social. I think I isolate myself because I am kinda depressed. The only people in my life are my boyfriend and 4 friends (I am only close with 1 of those friends though).

December 28, 2017 at 3:38 pm#184227

Katie

Participant

I remember being a super outgoing girl with lots of friends and now I am so isolated I hate it. But when I am in social situations, all I want to do isn’t be by myself now. I don’t even have the same personality that I did before. I used to be so loud and talk easily and whatever. Now I’m awkward and reserved and seem like I want to leave.

December 29, 2017 at 4:26 am#184281

anita

Participant

Dear Katie:

Reading your last few posts, seems to me that ending the relationship is probably a good idea for you. You describe a negative affect that this relationship has on you. And you are correct about him changing his behavior, referring to it as something not possible or not easy to do.

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When you told him you were leaving him, he felt fear and that fear motivated him to be attentive to you and not controlling. Then his mother gave him more of her negative input, his distress is revived and that leads to the old behavior. Changing, for him, would require, as I see it, that he no longer lives with his mother and that he is no longer in contact with her, and then, he will need quality psychotherapy. Therapy will take months at the least, after he is no longer in contact with his mother.

Because you are already suffering as a result of this relationship and because there is no reasonable hope, at this point, for improvement and healing on his part, better extricate yourself from the situation.

anita

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Ask your boyfriend to step in on your behalf.

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Address your boyfriend's parents by their titles (Mr., Mrs., Dr.) and their surname, unless they have indicated otherwise. You could say, "Mr. and Mrs.

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A pocketing relationship is when you never meet your partner's friends. They're quite simply hiding you from them. Although, it could also be that they're hiding their friends from you. That might happen if this is their first gay relationship, for instance, and they're still unsure of who they are.

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What age is appropriate for dating? ›

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How many dates until you are in a relationship? ›

Most people require 5-6 dates to make it official. Every relationship is different, but if you've been on 3-4 dates and are concerned that you aren't officially engaged, don't be. Before discussing a relationship, most couples go on 5-6 dates, and others go on even more.

How can I impress my boyfriends mom? ›

10 tips to impress your boyfriend's parents
  1. Dress appropriately. First impression may not be the last, but it does leave a lasting image. ...
  2. Take a gift along It's your first time at their place. ...
  3. Go prepared. ...
  4. Let them do the talking. ...
  5. Spare the man. ...
  6. Don't be a know-it-all. ...
  7. Refrain from PDA. ...
  8. Watch his ways.
26 Apr 2017

Is meeting the parents a big deal? ›

Meeting the parents is an important milestone in any intimate relationship for all involved. As they say, you only get one chance to make a first impression, and first impressions matter.

How do you know if his mom likes you? ›

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  1. Parents like you if they are attentive. ...
  2. Parents like you if they ask a lot of questions. ...
  3. Parents like you if they talk about you meeting other family members. ...
  4. Parents like you if they make specific plans to meet again.
11 Jan 2017

Why would a guy want you to meet his parents? ›

Most families have their rituals, and getting an invite to one of these definitely indicates a level of acceptance and a desire to get to know the apple of their son's eye. The fact that they know you exist (and are a big part of your guy's life) means he's been talking about you—and in a very favorable light.

Should you say I love you before meeting parents? ›

Breaking the ice and introducing a love interest to friends and family is never easy, but here is some advice on how, when and where to do it. Meet the friends, first. Sussman suggests introducing your partner to your friends before your family, but says you should wait at least three months before doing it.

How do I act around my boyfriends family? ›

Here are eleven ways to bond with your partner's family and develop connections that will enhance your commitment to each other.
  1. Don't Put Pressure On Yourself. ...
  2. Realize It Matters To Your Partner. ...
  3. Ask Them Questions. ...
  4. Make Plans, Solo. ...
  5. Try New Activities. ...
  6. Remember The Little Things. ...
  7. Use Humor. ...
  8. Be Confident.
9 Jun 2016

What do you do when you meet your boyfriend's mom? ›

Say hello with a pleasant smile and a friendly tone of voice. Make good eye contact when you greet her — don't look at the ground or avoid her gaze. Shake hands (or even give her a hug, if she's the hugging type), but do not feel compelled to do anything you are not comfortable doing.

How do I set boundaries with my boyfriends parents? ›

Here's how to properly draw the line between your partner's family and you two as a couple.
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  2. Decide What's Not OK to Share. ...
  3. Avoid Insulting Their Family. ...
  4. Be Ready to Follow Through. ...
  5. Have a Plan if Boundaries are Crossed. ...
  6. Meet in the Middle. ...
  7. Let Your Partner Take the Lead. ...
  8. Keep Your Distance.
21 Nov 2017

What if your boyfriend is a mama's boy? ›

If he's a mama's boy, it is not a good idea to move into her house. Chances are, their relationship as mother and son will come before your relationship with him. He will most likely side with his mother on every subject as to not upset her. He may even go to his mother when the two of you have a disagreement.

How do I deal with my boyfriends family? ›

Here's how to deal when you got off on the wrong foot with your boyfriend's family:
  1. Have patience. This is all new for both you and them. ...
  2. Be respectful. Don't ever say anything you'll regret to him OR them. ...
  3. Establish boundaries. ...
  4. Remain confident. ...
  5. Take baby steps. ...
  6. Don't over-vent.
17 Mar 2017

What is a smother mother? ›

What Is A Smother Mother? A smother mother is, well, smothering. Overbearing parents (like smother mothers) need to oversee their child in every aspect of their life. The mom or overbearing parent wants to know what their kid is doing at all times. It's not helpful for the child or the parent.

How do you set boundaries with overbearing mother-in-law? ›

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  2. Make it a team effort. ...
  3. Start early. ...
  4. See it from her side. ...
  5. Have patience. ...
  6. When things go wrong. ...
  7. When all else fails.
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How do you create boundaries with your mother-in-law? ›

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  2. Take Competition out of the Equation. ...
  3. Think About What They're Feeling. ...
  4. Sync Up with Your Spouse. ...
  5. Establish Regular Visiting Times. ...
  6. Give Them Time with the Children.
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Why are mama's boys a red flag? ›

In the dating scene, one of the biggest red flags is that the guy is a mama's boy. If a woman dates a “mama's boy,” it gives off the impression that he can't make his own decisions and that by dating him, you're basically committing to his mother.

What causes a man to be a mama's boy? ›

“A mama's boy is a man who has a very close connection with his mom,” says House, though she notes that “the name is broad, and can be assigned to men who have an unhealthy relationship with their mom, as well as those who have a very healthy and loving relationship with their mom.”

Can a mama's boy ever change? ›

Dr. Mandel: A mama's boy can most definitely be rehabilitated, but only if he's willing to acknowledge that his relationship with his mom is unhealthy and needs to be restructured.

How do you distance yourself from inlaws? ›

Enforce set boundaries

It is important to draw the line somewhere. Setting certain boundaries is necessary if you are considering distancing yourself from in-laws. Make sure you discuss those boundaries with your spouse as well. Talk about what's important and then, communicate the same to your in-laws as well.

What is a toxic in law? ›

In-laws who are toxic tend to take any situation as an excuse to react negatively, make a scene, or put you on the defensive. “Toxic in-laws react negatively to almost anything,” says Lynell Ross, a certified health and wellness coach.

Can a relationship work if you don't like their family? ›

It's normal if you don't like your partner's family, and it's completely normal to not have that Sister Sledge-style "We Are Family" moment every time you (are forced to) see and spend time together. Family dynamics are a lot, especially when you're dealing with a family that is not your own.

What is an elephant mom? ›

The term elephant parent refers to a parent who is very nurturing and protective and tends to focus on the emotions of his or her child over academic or athletic success. An elephant parent is relaxed about their child's academic achievement or sporting prowess. Instead, they prize emotional security and connection.

What is a unicorn mom? ›

As for the official definition of a Unicorn Mom, which can now be found everywhere from T-shirts on Etsy to UrbanDictionary.com, it is as follows: “A mother who's not perfect, enjoys alcohol, has a sense of humor, and couldn't care less what you think.

What is an overbearing mother in law? ›

What Is an Overbearing Mother-in-Law? An overbearing mother-in-law is someone who craves control and dominance. She often makes every situation about herself—she'll make sure you know exactly what she wants and how she wants it done.

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